Are girls averse to what is closer? This has bothered me since I noticed the trend in high school. Boys usually had crushes on girls of the same classroom, or of another classroom of the same year. Girls, on the other hand, seemed interested only in boys from other years or, more often, boys not from school – someone from the club they went to every other weekend, a neighbor of a cousin… Always someone multiple degrees of social separation away, and whom they could not see nearly as often.
Is that a mechanism of defense? That is, by having a crush on someone they hardly ever see, they did not have to deal with it nearly as often, had no peer pressure over “confessing” every day, no reason to feel awkward whenever he walked by during break?
Or are boys just far more limited in their social circles, barely going beyond the school walls? Naturally, then, they would fall for someone in there. That fails to explain, however, why there were fewer cases of boys having crushes on girls from other years. Could it be, contrary to established notions, that boys usually only fall for girls they know relatively well, while girls swoon over the best looking guy, even if they never talk to him?
Of course, I speak based only on my own school years. Funny, however: in college, it was very common to see people of the same classroom dating, and from what little contact I still have with the course, the trend seems to only have increased.
I conclude nothing. Guess I should had paid more attention to some neighbor’s cousin or something like that. It just annoys me it took almost a decade for a girl of my own classroom to notice me. But it is fine.
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And I admit I only wanted to post something in June. I was sure I had already done it, but the 30th had to come by for it to dawn on me I had not. This post had been echoing in my head for months, but when I started writing it I realized how little I had to say about it (not that the subject is limited; my observations are). Well, it will do.
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